Is it possible for a marriage to survive./?
Written by Bethwyn on November 8th, 2009
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Its really scary…my husband and I have been together for 10 yrs….we have 2 boys, 2 and 6. We’ve just been through a really bad patch….I had the divorce papers ready and everything we we’re separated for 5 months…..we recently reconciled…we are so afraid things would get bad again….should we seek couselling just to play it safe……is it possible for a marriage to survive after a very bad patch…we had horrible fights during that time.
sorry I meant counseling.
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Its really scary…my husband and I have been together for 10 yrs….we have 2 boys, 2 and 6. We’ve just been through a really bad patch….I had the divorce papers ready and everything we we’re separated for 5 months…..we recently reconciled…we are so afraid things would get bad again….should we seek couselling just to play it safe……is it possible for a marriage to survive after a very bad patch…we had horrible fights during that time.
sorry I meant counseling.
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27 Comments at "Is it possible for a marriage to survive./?"
Making Friends
You should go to a few sessions
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Counseling would be good for both of you and allow you to find out if the marriage is worth saving.
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Yes definitely get some counseling.
Good Luck.
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Yes, it is. Many marriages go through rough patches. You bith must really work on it.
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As long as the two of you are honest, counseling will always be helpful….
…but don’t discount the possibility that the two of you may need to work on your spiritual health as well.
A family that prays together stays together.
Making Friends
If both of you want it to work and you put forth the effort anything is possible. Best of luck.
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Holy crap! Counseling should have happened years before the divorce.
I’ll say this – even if you are NOT together, counseling will help you. You may or may not be able to save your marriage. But counseling can save you from a worse fate, whether your marriage survives or not.
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well unless you two make a mutual decision that you want to seek help, there is no point to going to counseling…
i think its possible if you both of you want it
How to Sleep Better
Yes, seek counseling.
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It wouldn’t hurt. As long as you are both willing. If not, then there’s no point.
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its possible for any marriage to survice if both sides are willing and determined to work it out. every one goes thru bad patches but if you relize your problems are coming back and you dont know how to stop it then give conseling a try, it can make your marriage stronger and better in the end.
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You should have stayed living apart and dated each other not been totally available on a daily basis…spent some time getting to know yourself better then you’d know what you want and what compromises need to be made….I think you jumped back to fast….develop who you are away from the whole relationship….then you will be whole when you decide to come together again…
Making Friends
counseling would not be a bad idea. i would suggest it. you never know until you try. if the both of you are willing to do what it takes to make your marriage work then go for it. i wish you the best.
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You need counseling to give you the tools necessary to avoid these bad fights, but you both must be willing to do what is asked of you
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Marriage can survive anything if you put your minds to it. I would recommend counseling, but only from someone that both of you trust. It couldn’t hurt. It helped me.
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I agree with Mr. Box Of Rain. The best way to quell a dispute is to put God first. That way it takes away a lot of the pride and desire to be right out of the argument. Pray together and put pleasing God first in your life and your marriage.
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Counseling is a perfect idea,it will give the both of you the right forum to air your grievances without incrimination’s and guilt trips.
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Yes, I would definitely encourage you, and your Husband to go to some counseling sessions, just to be on the safe side, and do not dwell on the past because it might repeat itself, think positive not negative, and I am sure all your worry will be for nothing, if you Love your Husband and he, Love you, I am sure your Marriage will survive anything.
Good Luck, to both of you and your children.
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I’m not a huge fan of going to counseling because I have an obsessive *I can do it myself!* attitude. BUT, when it comes to my family I’m willing to give anything a go. So.. I would say.. try it, at least. It can’t HURT, right? Unless you get a counselor that takes sides. You don’t want that. Do some research. Ask your physician to point you in the right direction. Tell him/her what you look for in a counselor.
As a matter of fact see if any offer free first meetings. So you can scope them out and get a feel for the environment.
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yes for sure, i mean if you don’t want it to be repeated again, pls do go ahead and seek counsel ling, it never hurts to get help in your marriage it just shows that you love your hubby and you care deeply about your marriage, so go ahead and seek the help that you guys need,GL on everything.
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Obviously, by reconciling, you both see worth in the marriage and in each other. That is an excellent first step. Now, it is time for each of you to learn how to forgive, how not to always insist on being right and how to “look before you leap (or think before you speak – or yell, or complain, or whatever).”
A counselor can help guide you through this. But, it will also take each of you considering, “What can I do to change.”, as opposed to, “What will he/she do to change?”. See the difference? When I put my best effort to change in order to please my wife, to help her feel at peace, to not annoy her (that always takes work) – and she is also considering what she can do to bless me as well, we wind up doing much better with each other.
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Yes I do believe that a marriage can survive no matter what you’re going through if both are willing/trying to work on it. I just had to leave my husband. we just back together/moved to AZ not knowing anyone to work on our marriage. he started leaving not coming home for days. Things like that you just need to move on because he’s not ready to grow up. Don’t allow people in your marriage/communicate always/never go to bed mad/always know if both of you love each other and are willing to work on anything it will work. Good luck
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Yes I think you should try counseling. I don’t know if it really works but you wont know if you don’t try. If you two really love each other and it seems that you do then I think counseling is worth the experience. Maybe you two need to also try dating each other again. NO KIDS! Just husband and wife out on a few dates. Try romancing each other again. You two have alot of history invested in each other.
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It’s hard to say with out the details on the “patch”
Did he hit you? If he did, he will again.
Did he cheat on you? Then he will have to wear a leash until you trust him again, if he is fine with that, go for it.
Was it finances? In-laws? Crumbs on the counter?
Some baggage is heavy and hard to let go of.
After a seperation of 5 months, obviously you both have done some soul searching, and with kids in the picture it is worth every fibre of your being to make it work.
The exception is hitting, men that hit don’t quit. They go into remission.
Good luck.
Making Friends
Of course you should seek counseling. Why wouldn’t you want to? The only thing seeing a counselor could do is make your decision easier regarding staying in or leaving your marriage.
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I separated from wife10yrs ago but still married by law.
Many bad verbal fights in
front of our daughters, now 17 24 25 yrs old.
Thank GOD no drugs
Fair boyfriends. Good in
school . ( No grand kids
yet !!! ) Wife went to jail
3 days cause of mouth
and temper.If u can’t do it for the marriage , split up
I pay $300 per/wk for one
daughter . Very close with
all 3 and love them dearly
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Yes do whatever it takes to make it work if you still love each other. DIVORCE sucks. My ex and I have been divorced 6 years. We try to be stay on good terms for our child but seriously our relationship causes a great deal of stress. Besides no matter who you’re with you have to work at it to make a relationship last. Good luck.